When love is your guide fear takes care of itself
There is nothing quite like those moments when you love the sounds around you, love the smells and tastes you experience, love the things you touch and are touched by, love the sights you see, and love the way you feel ... Wonderful states of ‘being’ that for many of us are too few and far between. Why? ... Because too many people tend to spend the bulk of their time caught up in the darkness that is fear.
There is no getting away from fear; it’s there and it will always be there and as I mentioned earlier, how much time we wrap ourselves up in its influence versus how much time we choose something better, has a powerful effect on our life experience.
It’s common sense that we should spend most of our time and energy creating feelings that help us and others feel wonderful, yet most human beings, even though they know how they want to feel, have turned their actions upside down, so that the average person spends more time stuck in fear through worrying, doubting, avoiding, resisting and denying, than they do creating the feelings of love they so dearly yearn for.
Just turn on the news, pick up a newspaper, or listen to general conversation and you will all too often find that the dominant message revolves around fear; what is wrong, what was wrong, what might be wrong, how bad things are or could possibly get, and how the world and the people in it are going to pieces.
No wonder the average man or woman on the street is full of fear, they’re literally bombarded by it.
So ... how do you live with that bombardment without it taking over? By accepting that while you often can’t do anything about what others offer you, you can choose how you respond to it and in your responses lies the key to finding your balance between love and fear.
React to fear with fear and you create more fear.
React to fear with love and love is what you create.
React to love with fear, love is forgotten and fear replaces it.
React to love with love and an unending circle of joy is all that is possible. What each of us projects through our thoughts, words, actions and habits creates not only an energy that ripples out but one that reflects back
MAKING THE SHIFT Part of experiencing a shift away from fear is learning to step back from your mind when it creates a downward spiral of negative commentary, full of worst-case scenarios. It starts with what you had a glimpse of in the last chapter; becoming aware of the effect of your moment-to-moment thoughts, the words you use, the actions you take and the habits you have created. It is the acceptance of how much time you spend with fear as your guide versus how much with love, how much time you spend in the darkness of worrying, avoiding, resisting, denying and escaping, versus how much in the lightness of adventure, commitment, belief and flow that will allow you to find your balance.
The acceptance of this ‘what is’ is not always easy, but as you see someone do so, you see them offer themselves the chance to understand that much of the darkness they may have experienced in the past does not have to be what they experience in the future. Please take a look at the image below. Where do your love vs fear scales tend to lean? If your scales lean more towards fear than you would like and you can come to terms with that, then thought by thought, word by word, action by action and habit by habit, you can shift your experience from dark to light, from fear to love. When fear looms large you can balance yourself by adding weight to love. When you despair, you can look for how to shift that despair towards joy. When driven by anger, you can apply yourself to peace, indifference to passion, impatience to patience, neglect to growth and ultimately fear to love. The Ultimate Power of You choosing love over fear 13
The Ultimate Power of You
This shift may not miraculously happen all at once, but as you apply yourself, ounce-by-ounce your scales will tip up out of the darkness and into the light.
The Gift of Two Minutes of Reflection
Become aware of your own personal balance between love and fear:
Where do your scales tend to lean?
How much time do you immerse yourself in creating feelings like belief, tolerance and appreciation versus being caught in denial, prejudice and disregard?
How much time do you spend creating what you want versus protecting against what you don’t?
How can you use that kind of awareness to help yourself?
Awareness is the first stepping stone in creating change
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